Every year, there is a remarkable opportunity to start fresh. You can set new goals, adopt new mindsets, and grow closer towards who you want to become.
Let’s be honest, this opportunity is completely arbitrary. You can change your life at any point throughout the career. There’s nothing special about January 1st or the start of a new year.
However, you and I are both human beings. If things were strictly logical, then life would be simple. Instead, we must deal with a complex web of emotions.
Emotions are the reason that we set and achieve goals. They are also what hold us back.
Have you ever had the experience of being super into a hobby or lifestyle change for one, two, or three months, and then simply lose interest?
Maybe you tried to lose weight, put on muscle, change your finances, or work on being a better person. For whatever reason, you weren’t able to see this goal through for the rest of the year.
Am I talking on a pedestal here? No! Of course not. I fail at keeping my new years resolutions, just like you.
In fact, in 2017, I had a lot of goals. One of them was to try to abstain from alcohol for the first six months of the year. I did not make it.
There are a lot of reasons behind this failure, but the main takeaway is that I’m human, just like you.
I also achieved many goals successfully in 2017. Woot woot!
But, today, we’re not talking about me. We’re talking about YOU.
Life isn’t about getting things or achieving things. It’s about becoming someone.
We all have a vision of our life in the future. In order to make that vision a reality, we need to become MORE.
We need to grow our skills, knowledge, life experience, and emotional fortitude. Today, I want to ask you this question… who do you want to grow into?
I want the best for you. The video below will set you on the right path in 2018. It will give you an opportunity to reflect on your goals for the new year.
This is a must watch! I’ll link it up below.
With this video, I shared some of my own experiences growing up and how my limiting beliefs have hampered my growth.
As I’ve grown each year, I’ve come to realize that often times, the thing holding me back is my beliefs about who I am and what I’m capable of.
When I was in high school, I identified as being the “shy kid” in school. I wasn’t very outgoing. I wasn’t loud. I didn’t talk very much.
While I had friends and played sports, I also spent a large portion of my time reading books, writing in journals, and keeping to myself.
Because I viewed myself as an “introverted person” I assumed that it wasn’t really in my nature to do things like speak in public.
I would get so nervous every time I had to come to the front of the room to give a presentation. It was hella awkward. I guess I just assumed that people were judging me and snicking behind my back.
I also assumed that no one really would value what I had to say anyway. For this reason, I would rarely speak up. I didn’t think it was necessary to share my thoughts and opinions.
As I got older, I realized that if I wanted to become a business owner, I’d need to learn to deal with my fear of socializing and talking in public.
The new identity that I wanted of “wealthy business owner” was conflicting with the view I had of myself as a “introverted and shy kid who kept to himself and thought a lot.”
Eventually, my desire to become financially independent outweighed the fear I had of putting myself out there. I began to seek out opportunities to work on my social skills.
I’d put my writing out there for the world to see, speak in public, do sales calls, and start to read books about things like emotional and social intelligence.
In time, I transformed my personality and how I viewed myself. I went from being the shy kid to the guy who could start a conversation with anyone about anything or be comfortable talking in front of hundreds of people.
I’ll never forget one time when one of my older friends was meeting a newer friend that I had. My one older friend mentioned something about me being quiet or introverted when I was younger.
My newer friend said something along the lines of, “Wow, I could never see Sal like that. He’s so outgoing at parties.”
That was the moment when I realized I had fundamentally changed my identity and how others saw me.
The Quality of Your Life is Determined By Who You Will Become
I hate to break it to you, but in order to achieve the quality of life that you want, you must change. You must become more.
After all, if your current state was sufficient, you would already have everything you want in life. Right?
In order to achieve goals like making more money, connecting with close friends, or finding an ideal lover, we must work on these areas of our life.
By “work” I mean read books, change your mindset, get motivated, set milestones, fail, and gain new perspectives as a result of new life experiences.
All of this work that you put in to getting closer to your objective will change you. It will change how you think and process new events. It will arm you with new skills that you can use to combat obstacles.
If you really want to change your life in 2018, you must first focus on who you want to become and work backwards on the skills and milestones you must hit in order to become that person.
I hope that this video begins to stimulate some thoughts for your goals in 2018. If you liked it, take a second to subscribe to the YouTube channel and leave a comment!