The most obvious question is, why would you want to remove social conditioning?
Why is it a BAD thing to have behaviors that are conditioned by society?
For the average person, I don’t think it’s a bad thing. After all, we need people to act a certain way if we want to have a fully-functioning society.
We can’t just have people running around the streets, breaking laws, behaving rudely, and doing whatever they wanted.
Without order, you can’t go down to the grocery store to pick up milk and bread.
Without order, you can’t store your excess money in a bank account which can be accessed at a later date.
Order is crucial for an organized society.
However, the structure of society is NOT beneficial for everyone. In fact, it is extremely detrimental for some, particularly if you’re trying to achieve results that are not average.
Let’s get this straight… our society is a great structure if you want to be an AVERAGE person.
Society is great if you want to be average
In America, the average man has a wife and kids. On the weekends, he roots for his favorite sports team. He buys things, like a flat screen TV, on credit. He works for a company and makes about $50,000 per year.
That is AVERAGE!
There’s no doubt that the education system is designed to help you be an average employee of a major company.
You’re taught to write a certain way, think a certain way, and conduct yourself in such a way that employers will find you attractive.
High school is designed to get you into college and college is designed to get you hired (or sell you on the value of getting another degree).
You are taught that education is the path to a happy suburban lifestyle. Just pile up on the degrees and you’re guaranteed to make more money.
Don’t pay attention to the fact that these degrees will leave you in debt up to your eyeballs until your in your 40s.
After all, once you are able to invest in your company’s 401K or set up an IRA, your retirement will be set!
Is there anything wrong with this?
No… not really. You’re making a lot of people rich by following this path, including:
- Insurance companies
- Financial advisers
- Mutual funds
There is nothing wrong with this model… unless you don’t want to be average.
I gotta be honest here.
- Not everyone can be rich.
- Not everyone can be their own boss.
- Not everyone can be financially independent.
It’s just not practical. Society wouldn’t be able to function.
If you seriously want to break through social conditioning when it comes to the financial area of your life you’re going to need to STOP PAYING ATTENTION to messages that are designed to make you middle class.
The advice, teachings, and resources aimed at the mainstream individual are not meant for you. Instead, you must seek out your own resources, mentors, and path.
You must discover (on your own) how wealth is created and how you can use the system to your advantage.
2 out of 3 Americans are overweight or obese
You know this. It’s not news.
It’s not like you leave college and you’re immediately overweight (though some are).
It’s more like over 5, 10, or 15 years you naturally put on a little bit of weight each year, and soon you discover that you’re obese.
If you put on 1.5 pounds of fat per year starting at age 20, by the time you’re 40, you’ll be 30 pounds over weight. Sounds like a beer belly, right?
As a young person, you’re told that your “metabolism slows down as you age” and that it’s okay to be a little overweight.
“You might as well enjoy your 20s while they last”
“Eat whatever you want now, because you won’t be able to later”
“Your wife or husband will love you for who you are, not how you look.”
Again… while it does damage your health, there is nothing wrong with being overweight. It’s a personal choice. I don’t have anything against it.
However, if you want to be above average, then you need to follow a bit of a different track than everyone else.
The average American consumes an average diet that is rich in carbs. It’s full of things like pasta, bread, alcohol, soda, chocolate, and candy.
What’s more, there is no exercise to speak of! Most of the day is spent commuting to work, watching TV, or laying in bed.
This is the recipe for a caloric surplus. It’s literally the fastest route to putting on fat.
If you take a look at the diet of countries around the world, you can see how it impacts the citizens. It’s no coincidence that individuals from other countries tend to be on the slimmer side.
Your weight a byproduct of what you eat and how you behave. These behaviors are heavily influenced by the environment you grew up in. We tend to eat the way our family does.
They are also influenced by who we spend time with. If our friends or significant other eat particular foods, we’re more likely to as well.
40 – 50% of married couples in Americans will divorce
This is average!
It’s very likely that you’re going to get a divorce in your life time.
It’s no secret… these are the reasons divorces happen:
- Lack of communication
- Weight gain
- Lack of intimacy
- Unmet expectations
I’m not going to go into all of the reasons that these occur, but I will say one thing.
As a man, you should never get married out of fear.
You know what I’m talking about.
You shouldn’t go with “what’s easy” because you’re tired of being single.
You shouldn’t do it because “that’s what everyone else” is doing.
Why would you give away half of your net worth just for feeling a bit more comfortable?
It’s just going to bite you in your ass later.
Many men will settle down because they are incapable of pulling any woman that they want into bed. There, I said it!
A lot of guys will think, “Well, this is probably the best I can get. Let’s tie her down now.”
Ask yourself, if you could actually go out there and sleep with any quality of woman you wanted, would you really settle down now?
So many of our choices in life are made from a place of lack of self-esteem and know-how.
I think it’s worth asking, do you want average results in this area of your life, or do you want to be exceptional?
I’m as guilty as you are (or more so).
It might seem like I’m lecturing to you right now, but actually, I’m talking to my younger self.
I am as guilty as anyone else in these areas, whether it’s my finances, relationships, health, or happiness.
It’s well-documented on my blog that I didn’t discover the world of business until I was a sophomore in college.
Up until that point in time, I had never been taught how to become my own boss or separate time from money. It’s just not taught in schools.
I ended up stumbling on a book called Rich Dad Poor Dad which completely changed my perspective on life (as it has for many others).
I started to take action, learn as much as I could, surround myself with other business owners, and eventually, I was able to go full-time on my business at the age of 22.
I haven’t looked back.
The only reason I have been able to transform my body and pack on some muscle was because I saw a Bowflex ad on TV.
At the time, I felt like if I got a six pack and put on muscle, then girls would start liking me in droves. I decided that I wanted to look like the dude in the advertisement and started going to the gym.
I started eating healthier, consuming protein, learning about fitness, and running regularly.
Eventually, I got to the point where girls in college were commenting on my body and I had massive jumps in self-esteem.
Funny enough, I now realize that looks don’t matter as much when it comes to attraction. On the plus side, the process of getting fit made me realize I could tackle any challenge.
For my entire life, I have felt dominant, in control, and powerful. But, my outward appearance and behavior has suggested otherwise.
Based on things like my posture, tone of voice, and attitude, I think that most people would have characterized me as shy and unsure of myself.
Most of my life, I’ve felt the consequences of low self-esteem with the opposite sex. I had girlfriends in high school and college (and even with cute girls), but I never felt totally confident when it came to “picking up” girls.
That all changed after a bad break up. I made it my mission to focus on this area of my life.
I started to study the concepts of emotional intelligence, body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, masculine/feminine polarity, etc.
I poured over books, videos, and devoured everything that I could get my hands on.
Progress was slow at first, but eventually, I got to the point where I was regularly seeing multiple women, sleeping with random girls on a consistent basis, and pulling attractive girls that would have surprised my earlier self. I got the entire thing down to a simple formula that anyone can follow.
I did get to the point where I wanted a relationship, but that choice was made from a position of strength rather than feeling like I couldn’t do any better.
This is the answer to breaking through
Do I have all of the answers?
No. Of course not. I’m only 26 years old. I’m working every day to improve myself, my skills, and my ability to both achieve new goals and enjoy my life.
I can share some of my findings with you and help you get results in your life.
However, there are many more people who are smarter and more experienced than me out there. You just have to tap into their knowledge.
By doing things like:
- Reading books on personal development
- Going through courses
- Hiring personal coaches
- Investing yourself
You can get results in any area of your life.
You just need to surround yourself with the right influences, right sources of education, and break out of the system that was handed to you.
Don’t listen to the mainstream. Don’t rely on “teachers” that try to steer you down a traditional path.
If you want average results, follow the mainstream. If you don’t, then run from mainstream thoughts and beliefs as fast as possible.